Constellations therapy is a method of identifying subconscious dynamics that challenge us and hinder our opportunities for growth and learning. The constellations therapy reveals the dynamics of previously hidden and unconscious relationships, which make it possible to change emotions, feelings and behavior.
The work process of the constellations therapy creates an opportunity for love to flow again and for the relationship to become more close. Family constellations is a powerful method for making visible the complex intertwining of the family of origin as well as the current family or relationship.
Solution-oriented changes in the constellations therapy bring a sense of understanding, inner clarity, and tension, followed by deep relaxation that allows love to flow again between members of the family system. In this therapeutic approach, the individual is treated as a particle in his or her family system, which in turn is part of other larger systems. A person's individual behavior, feelings and attitudes must be understood in the context of a larger group.
As in any other system, our behavior in the family system is governed by unwritten rules that we, as family members, usually know nothing about. If one or more members of the system subconsciously violate these archaic laws, another family member suffers as a result. This is done unknowingly, not out of rebellion, as you might think, but out of love - out of blind love. Being connected to other people can affect us for better or worse, but we may not always be aware of it.
Some information about ourselves is hidden in our subconscious. And everything that is hidden is automatically revealed in our lives. It is as if we do not have the control and knowledge that makes us act, why we feel those feelings, why we are dissatisfied, and why we create such a destiny.
We are strongly connected to our birth family. Even what happened seven generations ago can affect us today. We are part of a great soul that includes all members of the family. Out of love and loyalty to our family and ancestors, we subconsciously agree to compensate the debts and needs of our parents or previous generations. In doing so, we are even willing to replace family members who have died tragically or as children, or to compensate for serious losses or actions taken by parents or relatives, and we can also replace someone we do not want to talk about or who has been expelled from the family. In doing so, people do not live a life destined for themselves, but feel disaffected, alone and in extreme cases, they may even feel the urge to leave this world early.
To find a solution to an important question for a person and to find out whether and how his or her family of origin or previous generations affect him or her, we can set up a constellations field.
On the constellations field, it can be seen how, from generation to generation, we have carried on us the patterns of behavior, beliefs, fears, inexperienced feelings, difficult destinies, dreams, desires, and talents inherited from our ancestors. It can be expressed in an unwanted way in our own lives. E.g. deep unexplained sorrow is carried in the soul; the child has attention disorders, the relationship ends in the same way, someone is a single mother of the fourth generation, some develop an illness or, for example, constant financial difficulties, large losses. We do this out of great love and loyalty to our family, subconsciously believing that it will lighten their burden.
Often such intertwining has taken place at a very early age, which we no longer remember. But in doing so, we block our own development and access to our vitality, joy, and well-being. During the work of the constellations therapy session, the dynamics that affect the given issue are made visible and the harmful consequences of this dynamics are solved, encouraging one to meet and accept the real reality of the past.Constellations therapy provides an opportunity for the transformation of life. And at the same time, we must not forget that this is a journey and will take place in time. It can be the beginning of something completely new. Constellations therapy is the work of integration, where we integrate all that was and is. Only then will we be able to feel as a whole.
Today, the constellation method is used in many different areas of life, including organizational constellations, pedagogical constellations, legal constellations, which offers systemic solutions in all these areas.
Author of the text in Estonian: Kadri Riisik www.empaat.ee
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